An anonymous Reddit user found out that her husband had been cheating on her with her best friend. When the woman found out the sad news, she was six months pregnant. Her in-laws were kind and helped her out.
Someone on Reddit who didn’t want to be named told a sad story about her family. The woman and her husband had been together since she was 19 and he was 22. They had been married for six years and had two kids and one on the way.
She was excited about having more children, but then she found out that her father, who was the only parent she still had, had colon cancer. While she hoped her dad would beat the cancer, she learned that he wasn’t responding to the treatment and only had a few months left to live.
During this hard time, when her father’s health and memory were getting worse, her husband was there for her. “My husband has been my absolute rock. He has been there for me holding my hand and helping me through this. He’s been so loving and attentive to both my kids and me,” wrote the Reddit user.
The mother of three said again that she did not let her problems get in the way of her time with her kids, even though things had been hard for her. She was still there for her kids and gave them all the attention they needed. What the OP said first (OP) was also a great wife who did all the work around the house that she usually did.
The unknown Reddit user had support from both her husband and her best friend from childhood. ”My best friend and I have been friends since diapers. Her family is like my family and vice versa,” she said. It wasn’t a surprise that her best friend was there for her when her dad was sick with cancer. Their lives were turned upside down by something, though.
What did OP find out that changed her marriage?
OP’s husband set off one of his alarms early one morning while she was up with her sick 3-year-old. He had set a few of them before he woke up, and she was free to turn it off. She looked down at her phone and saw a text message from her best friend that said,
“I’m assuming since there hasn’t been an angry pregnant lady on my doorstep, you haven’t told her about us yet?”
She couldn’t believe what she saw, but she wanted to find out what was going on, so she took his phone and read their chats. That’s how she learned that her husband had been cheating on her with her best friend from childhood for four months. The OP chose to deal with things in the best way she knew how.
Processing the Dreadful Infidelity
The anonymous Reddit writer said she didn’t know what to do, which is different from some people who would know exactly what to do in that case. She claimed nothing happened for the first few days after she found out. She kept being a good wife by asking her husband about his day.
OP also made sure her kids didn’t think anything was wrong. What made things even stranger was that neither her husband nor her best friend showed any love or anything that would have led her to believe they were cheating on her.
In the middle of all this mental turmoil, the mother couldn’t understand how she could lose her father and see her family fall apart. Before telling her husband, she put it off for at least one day to make sure they had a peaceful day.
As for her best friend, she swore she would never talk to her again and didn’t even want to know why she had lied to her. “After today, I will cut her out of my life like she never mattered at all,” she decided.
A lot of people who commented were there for the mother of three. One Reddit user told her she was strong, but stressed that they would not tell her to stay with her husband and try to make things work.
Breaking the News to Her Family
Soon after, the unknown Reddit user let her followers know what was going on. She said that she told her mother-in-law and the mother of her ex-best friend. She didn’t try to explain what was going on; she just showed screenshots of the chat between her husband and her ex-best friend.
When her in-laws and her ex-best friend’s family heard what they did, they were shocked and quickly took her side. They apologized deeply and hugged and cried with her. That’s how mad her mother-in-law was. She was ready to give up on her son. In truth, the OP said that her mother-in-law reassured her by saying:
“That no matter what happens, I will always have her, and as far as she’s concerned, she doesn’t have a son, only a daughter.”
OP talked to a lawyer about leaving her husband, even though she wasn’t sure she wanted to. The lawyer then started writing up her divorce settlement. She said that the lawyer she hired was good and would fight for her. The lawyer made it clear that her husband would not get the money that her father left her.
The OP hasn’t talked to her husband about anything yet because she wants to focus on starting a new life with her kids. All of the people who commented also said nice things about the woman’s in-laws for being there for her and supporting her.
A lot of people were amazed at how well the Reddit user dealt with something so painful. One person who left a message said:
“The fact that you have the unequivocal support of the families of the people who betrayed you is touching. Often families side with the betrayer if they are family and not the betrayed. Morality is one of the rare things that can trump family.”
People who are really interested in the story are waiting for her to report back on how her husband responded to her argument. The OP came back with another shocking new information about what happened when she talked to her husband.
What Happened to Op’s Marriage and Life When Her Husband Was Confronted about the Infidelity?
OP came back with new information about her story. She began by saying that she had been tested and was negative for all STDs and STIs. Her parents and in-laws gave her all of their financial papers and wills to make sure she would be taken care of if she got divorced.
Both the OP’s mother-in-law and the mother of her ex-best friend stepped in and showed the cheating couple’s slide show of texts. The Redditor’s cheating husband tried to attack his mistress after the showing, but she cried and told her parents she was sorry.
It made OP’s husband very angry when he got home and saw that his wife had left with their things and the kids’ things. He lost it and went to find his wife at her dad’s house. While there, he hit the front door with a baseball bat and got arrested.
The person on Reddit wouldn’t settle down with her husband because her parents were such great examples of how to be true in a marriage. Jake, the brother of OP’s ex-best friend, was also there for her and helped her.
He and OP played video games together, and he told her he had feelings for her since he was younger. After a month, OP said that her father had died a week before her last report. It was faster for her and her husband to get a separation of marriage than to get a divorce.
OP’s ex-husband saw his kids once a week with supervision and went to therapy and learned how to control his anger. Her son was born and was named after her dad. OP wouldn’t let her ex-husband be in the room when she gave birth, which made him mad.
She and Jake weren’t in a hurry to do anything, and he was patient with them while also staying helpful. Jake would stay with OP while he looked for his own place when he got back from the army early retirement.