So it’s a bit of a head-scratcher when someone who you thought you were close to does something slightly mean. Reddit user u/fakeenamee, who is vegan, turned to the AITA online community for their help with a delicate situation. The OP promised to pay for their friend’s birthday dinner. However, he intentionally picked a restaurant that pokes fun at vegans and has no food the OP can eat. Scroll down for the full story.
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Paying for a close friend’s birthday dinner is a lovely and creative idea for a gift
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An internet user asked for advice after their friend purposefully chose a restaurant that does not serve food that they can eat
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Food is meant to bring people together, not drive them apart
The internet user’s story made quite a big splash on Reddit. At the time of writing, the post has 11k upvotes and 3k comments.
The vast majority of the readers were very supportive. They thought that the OP would be doing nothing wrong if they decided to go back on their promise to treat their friend to a lavish meal.
Taking the entire context into account, it really does sound like a very expensive way to have an awful time going out.
Food is what connects people and deepens relationships, no matter their culture. So to entirely exclude someone from being able to eat sends a very clear and unfriendly message.
As redditor u/fakeenamee said, they would have been perfectly fine eating at a non-vegan restaurant, so long as they had something they could nibble.
“I expected him to pick a steak house and I would’ve been fine with a salad and some side,” they explained to the AITA online community. “I didn’t expect him to choose somewhere that prides themselves on meat being in every single dish on the menu.”
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It’s important to be honest with ourselves about whether our friends invest the same amount of effort into us as we do in them
It would be incredibly difficult for anyone to throw away a friendship that has lasted years or even decades. And, truth be told, there’s no such thing as a ‘perfect’ friend. Everyone has their flaws, just like they have their upsides.
However, there are moments that take us aback and make us question the very foundation on which our friendship is built. Even though friendships should not be tossed aside lightly, it’s vital that we’re honest about where we stand.
For instance, let’s say that we suddenly realize that we always move mountains for someone who’s never around to help us out.
Then, it would only be fair that we put less time and effort into the friendship—it’s not a good social investment. We can also broach the problem head-on and talk to our pals about how their behavior affects us. It’s possible that they’re not aware of this.
Or… they might simply not value our friendship as much as we do. Someone might be our BFF, but we’re only a tertiary buddy to them. Yes, this fact might hurt. But it’s better to embrace the bitter truth than to live surrounded by cozy illusions.
If you feel like your friends don’t respect you and you cannot trust them, it’s very likely that the relationship needs strengthening. Alternatively, you may need to enforce healthier boundaries with these people.
Anyone who constantly talks about you behind your back, constantly asks for favors, and isn’t around to help you when you need it is a false friend. You should also be concerned if someone constantly gets jealous when things are going well for you and if they don’t offer you any support when you’re down on your luck.
Authentic friendship isn’t just about supporting one another, though. It also means telling the truth and being honest when the other person steps out of line.
The author shared a bit more context in a comment
Most folks were very supportive of the internet user. Here’s the advice they gave them on handling the delicate situation
