Prince Harry has maintained a strong bond with his late mother, Princess Diana’s side of the family, especially with his aunt, Lady Jane Fellowes. This connection was once again highlighted when Harry reached out to Lady Jane following the death of her husband, Robert Fellowes, at 82. Robert Fellowes was not only Diana’s brother-in-law but also a significant figure in the royal household, serving as Queen Elizabeth II’s private secretary during a particularly tumultuous time.
Reaching Out During Grief
Following the sad news of Robert Fellowes’ passing, Harry, 39, is reported to have reached out not only to Lady Jane but also to his uncle Charles Spencer and cousins. According to Us Weekly, these conversations have been a source of support for the grieving family. However, Harry’s physical presence at the funeral remains uncertain due to ongoing security concerns and the strained relationship with other members of the royal family.
A Possible Return to the UK?
There is speculation that Harry may return to the UK for his uncle’s funeral. Such a return would likely see him coming face-to-face with his brother, Prince William, amidst their ongoing estrangement. A friend of Harry’s told the Daily Beast, “in normal times, it would be unimaginable that Harry would not be there to support Jane.” However, they acknowledged the unique challenges of the current situation, noting that “everyone feels Harry’s attendance would just create too much drama. It will be very sad for him if he can’t make it.”
The Impact on Royal Dynamics
Despite the familial bonds, experts suggest that Robert Fellowes’ death is unlikely to mend the rift between Harry and William. Royal commentator Michael Cole told the MailOnline that while the princes are sure to offer “heartfelt condolences to their aunt Jane,” the death is “unlikely to affect family dynamics.” He added, “It is certain that they will express their sympathies separately, and strictly so, such is the gulf that has opened up between them in recent years.”
Robert Fellowes’ Role in the Royal Family
Robert Fellowes held a pivotal role in the royal household, serving as the Queen’s private secretary from 1990 to 1999. He was instrumental during the turbulent years that included the divorces of three of the Queen’s children—even the tragic death of Princess Diana in 1997. Fellowes was often seen as a stabilizing force during these crises. Helping the Queen navigate what she famously dubbed her “annus horribilis” in 1992. His contributions to the royal family were so significant that he was portrayed by actor Andrew Havill in the Netflix series The Crown.
Controversy and Loyalty
Fellowes’ loyalty to the royal family was unwavering, even when faced with controversy. He had to deny bizarre claims by Harrods owner Mohamed Al Fayed that he was involved in a conspiracy to murder his son Dodi and Princess Diana. Despite the pressure, Fellowes remained dedicated to his role, eventually moving back to the City as chairman of Barclays Private Bank after leaving his position as private secretary.
A Life of Service
Born in Sandringham in 1941, Robert Fellowes was deeply connected to the royal family from birth. His father, Sir William Fellowes, managed the Sandringham estate, and his mother was the daughter of Brigadier General Algernon Ferguson. Educated at Eton College, Fellowes briefly served in the Scots Guards before beginning his distinguished career in the royal household. He married Lady Jane Spencer in 1978, with Diana as a bridesmaid at their wedding. The couple had three children: Alexander, Eleanor, and Laura, Princess Charlotte’s godmother.
Reflections on His Legacy
In his later years, Fellowes remained an influential figure, becoming a life peer and serving as chairman of the Prison Reform Trust. Despite his high-profile roles, he described his life as being lived in a “gilded cage,” reflecting on the challenges of working within the royal household. He also expressed admiration for Princess Diana’s humanitarian work, acknowledging her extraordinary ability to connect with people.
A Family Mourns
The death of Robert Fellowes marks the end of an era for both the Spencer family and the royal household. Diana’s younger brother, Earl Spencer, paid tribute to his brother-in-law on Twitter, calling him “a total gentleman” and expressing deep pride in their familial connection. As the family comes together to mourn, the dynamics between the warring princes, Harry and William, remain uncertain. The funeral will undoubtedly be a moment of reflection, not only on Robert Fellowes’ life but also on the complex relationships that continue to shape the royal family.