- At 25, this iconic actress received a melanoma diagnosis after her fiancé urged her to check a suspicious mole.
- After ending that relationship, the actress began a loving, decade-long relationship with a fellow iconic actress.
- Earlier this year, the “American Horror Story” star shared the unique secret to their enduring relationship.
The actress during a press tour at the Ritz-Carlton Hotel in Pasadena, California, on July 20, 1999. | Source: Getty Images
Born on December 17, 1974, in Tampa, Florida, this Hollywood star rose to fame for her stellar performance in CBS’s supernatural drama “American Gothic” and the Emmy award-winning series “American Horror Story.”
Over the years, she has worked alongside Hollywood legends like Meryl Streep, Tom Hanks, and Mel Gibson, establishing herself as a force in the entertainment industry.
The “American Horror Story” actress at the premiere screening of FX’s “American Horror Story: Freak Show” on October 5, 2014, in Hollywood, California. | Source: Getty Images
However, this iconic actress’s love life has also caught fans’ attention thanks to her “unconventional” relationships. One of those romances has been her current relationship with a woman over 30 years her senior.
After nearly a decade of being together, the “American Horror Story” star opened up about the unusual secret of her and her partner’s long-lasting relationship.
The actress at the premiere of “Get Carter” in Los Angeles, California, on October 4, 2000. | Source: Getty Images
A Life-Saving Relationship: The Role of Her Fiancé in Detecting Cancer
Before finding love with a much older woman, this Hollywood actress had relationships with both men and women. In fact, when she was 25, she was engaged to actor and playwright Tracy Letts.
Their union was not only a romantic one but a life-saving one as well. In 2000, the “American Horror Story” star was preparing for a trip to Puerto Rico when her then-fiancé urged her to see a dermatologist about a peculiar mole on her back.
The Hollywood star at the premiere of “The Whole Nine Yards” in Century City, California, on February 17, 2000. | Source: Getty Images
The mole, tiny yet ominously black, turned out to be melanoma. “I was 25 years old. Who thought it could happen to me?” the actress recalled, highlighting the shock of her diagnosis.
Growing up in Florida with minimal sun protection and her fair skin increased her risk for melanoma. Fortunately, doctors caught the cancer early, preventing it from spreading.
The actress at the Women in Hollywood Luncheon on October 11, 2000, in Beverly Hills, California. | Source: Getty Images
Reflecting on the close call, the Hollywood star acknowledged, “Had I waited six months, it could have been disastrous.” Despite weathering the storm of her cancer diagnosis together, the “American Horror Story” actress and her then-fiancé parted ways.
The actress during the Dream Foundation Hosts Star-Studded Extravaganza Fundraiser “Le Cabaret des Reves” on September 25, 2002, in Hollywood, California. | Source: Getty Images
Love Before Holland: The Relationship with Cherry Jones
Following her breakup with Letts, this Hollywood actress found love again in a same-sex relationship with fellow actress Cherry Jones, 18 years her senior.
The couple lasted seven years before calling it quits, leaving fans with the fond memory of their affectionate smooch on live television during the 2005 Tony Awards.
Cherry Jones and Sarah Paulson at the opening night for Brian Friel’s “Faith Healer” on Broadway on May 4, 2006. | Source: Getty Images
An Unconventional Love Story: Crossing Paths with Holland Taylor
Following the end of her relationship with Jones, the “American Horror Story” star found love in the arms of acting veteran, Holland Taylor, 31 years her senior.
The couple first met in the mid-2000s at a dinner party. At that time, the Florida-born actress was still with Jones, but she couldn’t help but notice Taylor’s exquisite beauty.
Their paths crossed again a few years later, and after following each other on Twitter and exchanging messages, they finally agreed to get dinner.
The “American Gothic” actress and Holland Taylor at the opening night after party for the Second Stage Theater play “Appropriate” on Broadway on December 18, 2023, in New York City. | Source: Getty Images
Despite having had public relationships in the past, the “American Gothic” actress admitted that the attention that came with her and Taylor’s relationship announcement in 2015 still felt “surreal.”
However, the public proved the couple had nothing to worry about as, despite the significant age gap, the news of Taylor and her actress-girlfriend’s relationship was met with overwhelmingly positive.
The “American Horror Story” actress and Holland Taylor at the opening night after-party for “Ripcord” on October 20, 2015, in New York City. | Source: Getty Images
An Affinity for Older Partners and the Reluctance to Label Sexuality
Following her relationships with older women, the “American Horror Story” actress opened up about her dating habits and revealed her affinity for older individuals started during high school.
“I had a complicated home life, and my teachers, predominantly my theater teachers and English teachers, were very dedicated to taking care of me in a particular way. And in doing so, I think I developed a very easy rapport with people older than myself,” she explained.
Holland Taylor and her actress-girlfriend at the “Patriots” Broadway opening on April 22, 2024, in New York City. | Source: Getty Images
This natural gravitation towards older mentors translated into her romantic life, where she never had a serious relationship with someone her own age.
Reflecting on her romance with her older girlfriend, the actress noted, “There’s a poignancy to being with someone older. I think there’s a greater appreciation of time and what you have together and what’s important.”
The “American Gothic” actress and Holland Taylor at the opening night for Stephen Sondheim’s “Company” on Broadway on December 9, 2021, in New York City. | Source: Getty Images
However, despite her history of openly dating both men and women, the Hollywood star was hesitant to label her sexuality, wary of being pigeonholed. While admitting that her choices in romantic partners over the years have been unconventional, the actress added:
“If my life choices had to be predicated based on what was expected of me from a community on either side, that’s going to make me feel really straitjacketed, and I don’t want to feel that.”
Sarah Paulson and Holland Taylor at the 74th Primetime Emmys on September 12, 2022, in Los Angeles, California. | Source: Getty Images
While the star has avoided labels, one thing is undeniable: her love for Taylor. “What I can say absolutely is that I am in love, and that person happens to be Holland Taylor,” the actress stated.
Sarah Paulson and Holland Taylor at the Fendi Couture Haute Couture Spring Summer 2023 show during Paris Fashion Week on January 26, 2023. | Source: Getty Images
The Secret to Their Long-Lasting Relationship
The “American Horror Story” actress is Sarah Paulson, and earlier this year, she appeared on the “SmartLess” podcast, where she revealed the secret to her nearly decade-long relationship with Taylor: they do not live together.
“Yeah, we don’t live together. That’s the secret to it. We spend plenty of time together, but we don’t live in the same house,” Paulson shared.
During the May 13 podcast episode, Paulson added that her and Taylor’s living arrangement stemmed from the former’s dating history. Despite elegantly reaching 81 at the time of writing, Taylor had never been in a long-term relationship.
Paulson, on the other hand, had been in multiple. But the couple have fostered a beautiful and long-lasting relationship by not living together, and only being in each other’s presence when they craved it and not because co-habitation required it.
Sarah Paulson and Holland Taylor at the Louis Vuitton Womenswear Fall Winter 2023-2024 show during Paris Fashion Week on March 6, 2023. | Source: Getty Images
“I am thrilled and I feel very lucky to be with a person who is smarter, wiser, wittier than I, and that just makes my life better in every possible way. It makes me want to be a better person and a fully realized person,” Paulson said.
The actress added that Taylor did a remarkable job of making her feel seen, which, according to the actress, is “the most important gift you can give to any person.”
Sarah Paulson and Holland Taylor at the Vanity Fair Oscar Part on March 12, 2023, in Beverly Hills, California. | Source: Getty Images
Having been together for nearly a decade, Sarah Paulson and Taylor’s relationship shows that love knows no age boundaries. Their enduring bond proves the power of genuine connection and the importance of cherishing every moment together. Their story, marked by love and a deep appreciation for one another, continues to inspire many.