Polygamous relationships often draw curiosity and skepticism from those outside the community. For self-proclaimed trophy husband Nick Davis and his three wives—April, Jennifer, and Danielle—their unique arrangement is showcased on TLC’s reality series Seeking Sister Wife. They navigate their complex relationship dynamics through various means, including a creatively named space for intimate moments called the “boom boom room.” Here’s an in-depth look at how the Davis family makes their unusual setup work.
The Davis Family’s Unique Arrangement
Nick Davis, who describes himself as a “trophy husband,” lives with his three wives and manages the household while his wives work full-time. Nick’s role in the family is unconventional; he doesn’t hold a job, likening his role to that of a king on a chessboard—static while his queens move around and exert power. This arrangement might seem odd to some, but it’s the foundation of the Davis family’s dynamic.1
The 12ft Bed: A Symbol of Unity
One of the most striking features of the Davis household is their 12ft-wide bed, where all four family members sleep together. April explained, “We officially have a 12ft wide bed,” emphasizing that this sleeping arrangement helps them avoid dividing Nick’s time between different rooms each night.2 This setup contrasts with many polygamous families who might prefer separate sleeping quarters due to practical reasons like finding suitable bed sheets. But still, the trophy husband and all three wives sleep together each night.
The ‘Boom Boom Room’
Despite their shared bed, the Davis family has designated a separate area known as the “boom boom room” for their intimate encounters. This space allows Nick to maintain individual relationships with each of his wives without disrupting their collective sleep arrangement. Not all wives are fond of the name, with Danielle voicing her disapproval, but it remains a functional part of their household¹.
Nick uses a solar system analogy to describe how he balances his attention among his wives: “As far as the sexual attention that each of my wives receives, it’s kind of like a solar system. Each of the planets revolves around the sun in its own orbit, at its own distance. They don’t all receive the same amount of sunlight, but they all receive what they need to remain in their orbit”¹. This analogy helps illustrate how he attempts to meet each wife’s needs individually while maintaining harmony in the family. It seems we’ve upgraded from trophy husband to “star of the show”.
The Role of Each Wife
April met Nick in university 15 years ago, and appreciates the assistance she gets from having additional wives. “Nick’s a lot to handle. Let’s just say that… in a lot of ways. Nick is a lot to handle in the bed. It’s nice to be able to have helping hands,” she explained. April played a pivotal role in introducing Jennifer into the marriage, recognizing her potential to complement their family dynamics.
Jennifer, who joined the family nine years after April, shares a strong intellectual and emotional connection with Nick. “It just became evident to me that she was a great person, there was a lot of high intellect in that big brain of hers and I knew that Nick would find her attractive,” April shared. Jennifer’s arrival solidified the family structure and introduced the new dynamic of trophy husband and his wives.
Danielle, the newest addition, was welcomed with a wedding ceremony that included April and Jennifer by Nick’s side. “Having three wives, knowing that we’ve all solidified our union and brought it together like we have, it’s just unbelievable. I just feel like I’m just living a dream come true,” Nick said. Danielle echoed his sentiments, expressing a newfound happiness she hadn’t ever experienced before.
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Balancing Intimacy and Daily Life
Nick’s wives handle their professional responsibilities while also managing household duties, making their system a collaborative effort. The division of labor allows Nick to focus on maintaining emotional and physical connections with each wife, ensuring that everyone feels valued and loved. This balance is critical to the sustainability of their relationship.
Challenges and Criticisms
Living such an unorthodox lifestyle comes with its own set of challenges. The Davis family often faces public scrutiny and curiosity. Nick’s analogy of being the sun around which his wives revolve sparked mixed reactions online, with some viewers finding it egocentric. “I’ve never heard someone compare themselves to the sun… that was a first,” one person commented, reflecting the common sentiment of surprise and skepticism. The idea of being a trophy husband who’s only role is emotionally balancing his wives isn’t a strongly accepted idea, either.
Despite these challenges, the Davis family remains committed to their lifestyle. They continuously work through their issues, using trial and error to navigate their relationships. As Nick puts it, maintaining their bonds requires constant effort and understanding.
Conclusion
The Davis family’s journey provides a glimpse into the complexities and nuances of polygamous relationships. By establishing clear roles, creating unique spaces like the “boom boom room,” and fostering open communication, they manage to make their unconventional lifestyle work. While it may not be for everyone, their story highlights the importance of adaptability, mutual respect, and love in any relationship. As they continue to share their experiences on Seeking Sister Wife, they offer valuable insights into the diverse ways people can build and maintain their families.