Eva Mendes attends the 2009 Parsons Fashion benefit on April 29, 2009 in New York City | Source: Getty Images
Since Eva Mendes departed from the limelight, she has been notably absent from the red carpet. She often leaves her partner, Ryan Gosling, to walk it alone. This was particularly evident on March 10, during the 2024 Oscars.
Eva Mendes and Ryan Gosling attend “The Place Beyond The Pines” premiere on September 7, 2012 in Toronto, Canada | Source: Getty Images
While Gosling attended the event, Mendes stayed backstage. A post she shared on Instagram captured Mendes outside Gosling’s dressing room. It was accompanied by a caption, “Always by my man.”
Eva Mendes and Ryan Gosling attend the SNL after party on September 30, 2017 in New York City | Source: Getty Images
This unusual dynamic has sparked speculation and concern among internet users. Some suggest that Gosling’s A-list status and younger age have led to his career taking precedence over Mendes’. They question why Mendes doesn’t accompany Gosling on the red carpet if she wants to show their relationship publicly.
Others express concern about Mendes’ financial security. This is because she is a stay-at-home mom, especially since she and Gosling are unmarried. They believe it could leave her without alimony in the event of a separation.
Ryan Gosling at the 96th Annual Oscars on March 10, 2024 in Los Angeles, California | Source: Getty Images
Mendes is sometimes absent from awards and events even before the Oscars. This has led to speculation that she and Gosling might be living separately. Some comments suggest that the dynamics of their relationship, as portrayed in the media, give off controlling vibes.
Eva Mendes during the launch of a new Cartier Love Charity bracelet on June 11, 2009 in New York City | Source: Getty Images
Some users have expressed doubts about the longevity of the couple’s relationship. Others have suggested that Gosling seems less invested in the relationship than Mendes. Other people ask if it’s okay for Mendes not to go on the red carpet. They’re worried, especially when Gosling is up for an award.
One user commented, “Maybe behind closed doors things are super smooth sailing but have a feeling now that the kids are getting older she’s not feeling quite so secure with things. She went from being very private to suddenly giving interviews and defining their roles. Time will tell. [sic]”
Amid the speculations, Mendes has provided insight into her decision to step away from Hollywood. She described a mutual understanding between her and Gosling. They both would continue to work but in different capacities.
Mendes focused on her family, transitioning from acting to being a full-time parent. This decision, she explained, was a “no-brainer.” It allowed her to spend more time with her children while maintaining a career away from the camera. Mendes also expressed her admiration for Gosling’s work ethic.
Eva Mendes attends the “Trust the Man” premiere on August 7, 2006 in New York City | Source: Getty Images
She fondly recalls their shared experience on the set of The Place Beyond the Pines,” where they first met. The actress is in awe of Gosling’s commitment to his craft. She said, “I have never experienced anything like that. The way he works, his commitment to his craft… But unfortunately — or fortunately — there is only one Ryan.”
While Gosling continues to make movies, Mendes has taken a step back from acting. She has, instead, chosen to focus on their two daughters, Esmeralda Amada and Amada Lee. Despite this shift, Mendes still supports Gosling’s career. She even shared her thoughts on his memorable performance at the 2024 Oscars.
Eva Mendes in her kitchen, from a video dated March 13, 2024 | Source: Instagram/evamendes
Mendes explained her Instagram post where she urged Gosling to “come home” to “put the kids to bed.” The post was made the same day she was seen outside Gosling’s dressing room. It encapsulates their relationship dynamic. She explained, “You go, do your job the best you can, and then come home. [sic]”
Eva Mendes in her kitchen, from a video dated March 13, 2024 | Source: Instagram/evamendes
Mendes has journeyed from Hollywood to now wanting to stay at home. Her journey paints a picture of a woman who has embraced new roles and responsibilities. Despite the changes, she remains deeply connected to her partner.
While she chose to support Gosling from behind the scenes at the Oscars, he had the support of his family. Gosling’s sister, Mandi, accompanied the actor on the red carpet.
Eva Mendes in her kitchen, from a video dated March 13, 2024 | Source: Instagram/evamendes
This sparked headlines. Many outlets noted Mendes’ absence and called her Gosling’s “wife.” This public perception of their relationship may have been fueled by Mendes wearing a gold band on her ring finger.
Eva Mendes speaks at “Create & Cultivate” Los Angeles on February 22, 2020 in Los Angeles, California | Source: Getty Images
One sighting was in February 2020 when she spoke at an event called “Create & Cultivate.” The ring was also visible in November 2023 when she shared a video of herself petting a horse.
Despite Mendes’ absence from the red carpet, she has made it clear that she is Gosling’s biggest cheerleader. Gosling has shared how Mendes and their daughters have been his sounding board, offering him advice for his performance at the Oscars.
He shared, “They are such a huge part of this for me… it was my girls’ interest in Barbie and disinterest in Ken that got me into this in the first place. It was beautiful to have them there at the end.” Adding to the intrigue, Mendes has a tattoo that reads, “De Gosling” on her forearm, hinting at their deep personal bond.
Mendes has previously addressed her decision to avoid the red carpet with Gosling. In an April 2023 post featuring footage from their 2012 film “Place Beyond The Pines,” she wrote, “Magic is Real. We did not meet on set. The magic started way before, but here’s a little magic captured on camera.”
Ryan Gosling attends the 89th Annual Academy Awards on February 26, 2017 in Hollywood, California | Source: Getty Images
Fans have expressed hope to see Mendes with Gosling during the Awards Season. The actress responded and clarified their approach to public appearances. She replied, “What a cool comment; thank you. But we don’t do those things together… Like these photos I’ve been posting, I’m only comfortable posting because it’s already out there.”
Ryan Gosling performs at the 96th Annual Oscars on March 10, 2024 in Los Angeles, California | Source: Getty Images
This indicates that Mendes prefers to keep their relationship private. She wants their private lives separate from their professional lives. She further clarified, “Oh wait – for those who may catch me in a ‘lie’ – we only were on the red carpet together once when promoting this film.”
Ryan Gosling at the 96th Annual Oscars on March 10, 2024 in Los Angeles, California | Source: Getty Images
On the other hand, Gosling has never held back with public declarations of love for Mendes. In a 2015 interview, he stated, “I know that I’m with the person I’m supposed to be with.” The actor added that the only quality he looks for in a woman is “that she’s Eva Mendes.”
In 2016, he was asked about his thoughts on the 3:1 girl-to-boy ratio in his house. He described it as “heaven,” likening it to “walking through a field of flowers every day.” He added, “I live with angels. It’s like a ray of sunshine in a dark time honestly.”
Gosling deeply appreciates and admires Mendes. His heartfelt speech at the 2017 Golden Globes further highlighted this fact. He thanked her for managing their home and caring for their family while he was filming “La La Land.”
He acknowledged her efforts in their family. While raising their daughter, Mendes was pregnant with their second child. At the same time, she was helping her brother fight his battle with cancer. He said, “If she hadn’t taken all that on so that I could have this experience, it would surely be someone else up here other than me today. Sweetheart, thank you.”
Later on the red carpet, Gosling gushed about his family life, saying, “All the cliches are true. It’s a dream and they are angels.” During the Los Angeles premiere of the film “Barbie” last year, Gosling subtly honored Mendes.
Ryan Gosling attends the World Premiere of “Barbie” on July 9, 2023 in Los Angeles, California | Source: Getty Images
He donned a pastel-pink suit by Gucci and accessorized with a pendant bearing the initial “E” in the iconic Barbie font. On the red carpet, he affirmed that the pendant was a tribute to Mendes, symbolizing his profound personal dedication to her.
Ryan Gosling, Eva Mendes, and their daughter, from a post dated January 29, 2024 | Source: Instagram/whoopsee.it
Ryan Gosling, Eva Mendes, and their daughters, from a post dated January 29, 2024 | Source: Instagram/whoopsee.it
The glimpses into the private life of Mendes and Gosling are rare and precious. They are much like the few real-life family photos that offer a peek into their world away from the spotlight. These snapshots capture moments of love, joy, and everyday life. It paints a picture of a family that values privacy and cherishes their time together.
Mendes and Gosling have managed to strike a delicate balance between their public personas and their private life. They have navigated the challenges of fame while maintaining a strong bond and a stable family life.
Their story is a testament to their commitment to each other and their children. They demonstrate the possibility of a balance between professional aspirations and personal happiness. They’ve made personal choices that prioritize family and love over fame.
Ryan Gosling and Eva Mendes with their daughter, from a post dated May 15, 2019 | Source: Instagram/closerweekly
Mendes chose to leave Hollywood to be with her family. Additionally, Gosling often talks about how much he loves and respects her. This shows how much they care about each other and what they believe in.